Eve and the Rise of Feminism
In 2014 my marriage was in the hands of the enemy. Broken and on the verge of ending in a divorce. With two small kids I was staring a very real scary reality of single motherhood square in the face. A reality that was 100% my own doing. Years of lies and deception had led me to a place of becoming just another sad statistic of a failed marriage.
I have always prided myself on being a strong, independent woman. A product of a long line of strong southern women. I justified applying for credit cards and spending habits that did not involve my husband’s input on the simple fact that I had a corporate career, making my own money and could make my own decisions.
In 2010, I left the corporate world to start a home based business of my own and by 2012 I was making well over 6 figures, more money than my husband made which only fueled my independent pride and reckless spending habits. I purchased a luxury vehicle without my husband’s knowledge or input. I could afford it and was a grown woman who didn’t need her spouse’s permission to buy a vehicle.
By 2014 I had wracked up almost 20K in credit card debt my husband knew nothing about and was several months behind on my car payment. I was living a life of skating on a thin ice of lies. I had convinced myself that I could dig my way out of the hole I was in and didn’t need anyone’s help.
On the night of November 6, 2014 during dinner there was an unusual knock on our door and my worst fear was standing on the other side. A process server who had court papers for a bank loan I was in default. A $7,800 loan my husband knew nothing about. It was by far the worst night of my life as I watched my husband’s heart break and the indescribable hurt on his face as he tried to understand what was happening. How someone he loved and trusted could be capable of such deception but it was a night where God saved me from myself and put me on a path of redemption.
During the next several months I had to come clean with my husband about the financial mess I had gotten myself and our family into. There were many days where I did not know if we were going to be able to work through it or reconcile. I had broken every ounce of his trust and I was having to face each day as it came.
During those months, I had to take a hard long look at myself and what had led me down this road. My marriage was broken and the truth is that I had no one but myself to blame. It was a journey of self-reflection that was grueling and broke me to my core. I was faced with coming to terms with the feministic lies I had bought into as a woman and wife. God was not leading me in my marriage, in fact I was hell bent on resisting anything that had to do with the word “submission” and I was not honoring my husband as the spiritual leader of our home.
As I focused on putting my marriage in God’s hands, I began to understand that I needed to surrender myself to becoming a woman who lived her life by God’s design and not by society’s feministic definition.
One morning during my Bible study time, I felt myself writing out this question in my journal "Why did Satan tempt Eve in the garden and not Adam?"
A question I wrote down and at first, did not think too much about. I have read the story of Adam and Eve and their separation from God when they ate from the forbidden tree many times but I had honestly never questioned the details of it.
Several days went by and as I stared at this question in my journal day after day, I felt God tugging at me to dig deeper and to be honest, I did not want to. I was quite content with coming up with answers like maybe Eve just happened to be closer to Satan in that moment and so he picked on her or maybe Adam was asleep somewhere under a fig tree and Satan didn't want to wait for him to wake up before making his move but my heart was telling me it wasn't that simple.
The enemy is a lot more clever and purposeful with his work than just flying by the seat of his evil pants.
There is a reason why Satan tempted Eve first. There is a reason why Satan did not go to Adam and wickedly exclaim "hey, you! go tell your mate over there that you wear the leaf pants in this garden and y'all are eating from the forbidden tree and if she doesn't like it, tough". I believe his plan was much bigger than that.
New King James Version (NKJV)
The Temptation and Fall of Man
"Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?”
And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die.’”
Then the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”
So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings.
And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden.
Then the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, “Where are you?”
So he said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.”
And He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?”
Then the man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.”
And the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?”
The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
The Bible tells us that the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which God had made. Cunning by definition means "having or showing skill in achieving one's ends by deceit or evasion." Being scheming and cunning is usually very methodical to find pleasure in every detail of a deceitful plan.
Satan did not tempt Eve just by chance, out of convenience or on a whim. Satan tempted Eve with "being like God". He tempted her with being equal to God.
As I came to terms with my own mistakes and dived deeper into this as a woman who spent most of her marriage trying to do things her own way instead of God’s way and talking with other bold Christian women in my circle it brought me to a revelation with the current feminist movement happening in our society. By definition, feminism means "the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes."
But this movement for equality has turned into a very slippery slope. While men and women were created equally in flesh in the eyes of God, He also created them differently by design. God never intended for men and women to be equal in every sense of the word. Each gender has their own unique strengths and God given roles to be purposely different but equally important. This is where feminism is mudding the hearts and minds of women, including my own.
New King James Version (NKJV)
"And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.
And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
And Adam said:
“This is now bone of my bones
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
A helper indicates that Adam's strength for all he was called to be and do was inadequate in itself. Comparable to him denotes complementarity. The needed help is for daily work, procreation and mutual support through companionship. Scripture never says that God told Adam that Eve would be his equal nor did Satan tempt Eve with being equal to Adam, he tempted her with being equal to God.
Women have an incredible opportunity to serve God with their strengths and talents. To live boldly for Him and gracefully glorify His kingdom. I love how God has used woman throughout history to be His warriors. Stories like that of Ruth, Esther, Deborah and Sarah. They were bold, brave, and in some cases daring. All qualities that any woman would want to possess but they were also steadfast and faithful to God. They did not step outside of His will to do things their own way nor did they complain about the unjust inequality going on around them. They trusted God to equip them and use them for the glory of His kingdom.
Now I know you may be reading this and thinking "but being for women and empowering women is a good thing!" and I don't disagree with that but modern-day feminism doesn't just stop there. Feminists advocate for generalized equality, that women can do all things that men can do, the shattering of glass ceilings regardless of qualifications just so we can proudly declare that a woman holds a certain position (I would love to see a woman serve as President but I won't cast a vote just based on gender just to prove a point that a woman can hold the title of President), the growing rejection of patriarchy and men being the spiritual leaders of their families and household.
While women should never be oppressed because of their gender, we also have to be mindful that we are not using equality to live outside of who God created us to be and stripping men of their value, strengths and gifts they bring to our soceity and to their families. Social equality can never out weigh our divine equality or how we are valued by our Creator.
The very basis of feminism is a rejection of God's divine authority (just like Eve did in the garden and her desire to be equal to God) and God's divine design for women. Honoring God as women and accepting His design does not make us "less than" but that is the sin that was committed in the Garden of Eden centuries ago and that is the movement being played out today in our society. My rejection of honoring my husband as the spiritual leader of our family to be independent meant I was rejecting God’s design for a Godly marriage.
Men and women are both highly favored and equal in the eyes of God as His children and feminism has made words like "submissive" and "authoritative" some kind of evil doing for women. In 1 Corinthians 11:3 (NKJV) Paul tells us "But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God." If we deny that women are to be submissive to men, then we have to deny the church is to be submissive to Christ, and that Christ was to be submissive to the Father in His incarnation.
Being submissive by God's definition is to live in pursuit of righteousness in accordance with His will and command for His children not because He wants all the power to rule over us but to keep us from the evil schemes of the enemy. God guides us and when we obey Him, we accept that He knows what is best for us.
Society has convinced women that submission is some evil plot to keep us from prospering in our lives but that could not be farther from God's truth. If submission is something that makes you uneasy I know all too well friend how easily the enemy can twist you into buying into that lie but it’s a lie that kept God from leading my marriage and the blessings that come with it. I want to encourage you to dive deeper into God’s word, the Truth above all else, to help you discern the emotions you are having. Have conversations with trusted spiritual leaders who can help you work through the struggles you are having v. the lies the enemy keeps cycling you through or seeking validation and what you want to hear from a passionate feminist on social media.
Through my own journey of God convicting my heart and healing me from the woman broken under the weight of her own feminism views, I have concluded that feminism is a movement that started in the garden when Eve separated herself from God. A movement that continues to separate women from God's intended design and allowing the enemy to destroy marriages. Feminism has many different layers, ideologies and definitions depending on who you ask but we don't need feminism to tell us that we are valued or worthy. God himself tells us we are:
"But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that being justified by his grace we might become heirs according to the hope of eternal life." Titus 3:4-7 ESV
"I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well." Psalm 139:14 ESV
God sent his one and only Son here to die for us so that we may dwell with Him for eternity. That humbling thought alone for me is enough to know how much I am valued and loved.
As women, we need to recognize that we can empower, support and celebrate womanhood and each other and be Godly women too. It’s okay to have a "I am woman, I am capable, I am fiercely independent, hear me roar!" parade but here is the main issue with feminism, when it is not in agreement with God it separates us from God.
We either trust God to guide us as women are we don't. We either believe that His divine wisdom has our best interests at heart or it doesn't. We either live boldly and obedient for Him or we don't. There is no half way with God and there has been no delicate way for me to view this issue, at it's very core feminism is an attack on God's design for womanhood.
I am not here to tell you how to feel or what to think about feminism beautiful friend. I can only share my personal story of where over zealous feminism landed me and what God has laid on my heart to encourage you to evaluate your own marriage while searching for your own answers that will be rooted in the foundation of His Word. To encourage you to take the questions you have to Him as your one and only Counselor.
I challenge you the next time you make a decision that will impact your marriage or take up your pitchfork to be part of a message that claims to empower all women or before you comment in agreement on a social media post to ask yourself these questions:
• "Is this aligned and in agreement with God's word?"
• “Am I honoring my husband as the spiritual leader of our family?”
• “Am I honoring God’s design for marriage or am I allowing my independence and pride to lead me?”
• "Does this glorify God or is pride and ego at play here for someone else's agenda?"
• "Is this inclusive as God commands us to love one another as He loves us or is the message segregating, shaming and isolating others?"
• "Do I believe whole-heartedly in the message that is being shared or am I getting caught up in jumping on a bandwagon to be a part of something?"
While there are a lot of good things that have come from feminism over the years like a woman's right to vote, to be afforded the opportunity to receive an education, resources to start and own businesses, protection from sexual harassment in the workplace and hold the office of CEO for a major corporation, feminism is also going rogue (that is the danger of being out of alignment with God).
I recently ran across these quote graphics on Instagram and I don't know about you, but these types of posts make my heart hurt. Is this how we as women want to be heard? Is this the type of message we want to teach young girls? What I see is a feminist movement that is spiraling out of control.
These are hard but honest questions we as Godly women have to diligently keep asking ourselves to keep our minds and our hearts guarded from the clever schemes of an enemy who wants prey on our weaknesses and use them to separate us from who we are in Christ and destroy our marriages in the process. Being Godly women and having Godly marriages is a privilege but the enemy is using feminism to discredit what God perfectly created to be a blessing.
I am deeply grateful for the work God did in me so that my marriage could be restored in a way that only God could. I had to surrender my need to do things my way and give my marriage over to God to do things His way. By His grace, I continue to be a daily work in progress. I work to dive deeper into how I can use my gifts to honor God, my husband and my marriage. To stay deeply rooted in Jesus as my marriage counselor to ensure I serve my husband and my marriage well.
I hope you will too sweet friend because make no mistake, the enemy is out to destroy your marriage with a vengeance, showing no mercy. The world needs brave women who will boldly stand and fight for their marriages and lead their families as God designed and intended because there is truly no greater gift than a Godly marriage.
“An excellent wife is the crown of her husband” Proverbs 12:4
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